摘要： 在民事纠纷解决的合意形成机制中，存在着某些相互矛盾的现象，造成合意的方法在实际运行中出现理想与现实相互脱节的情形。对此，与其在理论上各执一词，不如从当事人的角度观察，可能会得出更加符合实际的结论。其中，自愿与强制是一对客观存在的矛盾体，它们既互相排斥，又彼此依存；合意动机的不同，会影响当事人对于合意的态度和合意的效果；事实与责任在客观上构成了合意的形成基础；而在合意与决定之间始终存在着不可逾越的界限。

关键词: 民事纠纷, 纠纷解决, 合意, 正当性

Abstract: Some conflicting phenomena always exist in consensus formation mechanism of civil disputes resolving, which result in a situation caused by consensual approach disjointed between ideal situation and reality in actual operation. Faced with these contradictory phenomena, more realistic conclusions may be drawn by viewing from the perspective of the party than in theory uncompromising. Voluntary and mandatory of consensus  is a contradiction objective existence, which are both mutually exclusive and interdependent. Due to the different consensus motivations, a different kind of state will appear on the performance, the intrinsic motivation often determines the consensus effect, facts and responsibilities objectively form the basis of consensus,  and an insurmountable strict boundary between the consensus and the decision.

Key words: Dispute Settlement, Agreement, Foundation, Legitimacy